As a leader, you are faced with leadership challenges almost everyday. If not in your business, it is in your office or school. If not outside your house, it will be within your family where demands call for you from all angles.
In these challenges that we have encountered, doesn’t it always draw us back to the one question of how we lead ourselves in the midst of chaos? It is always a leadership issue and there’s always some form of chaos.
Knowing we cannot lead others until we are able to lead ourselves, this question of how to lead yourself in the midst of chaos is the most pressing question we need an answer to.
Let me help you explore this with 4 keys.
Embrace Who You Are
You are a human being and not a human doing. If we know at the end of our life, we won’t measure it by. Start thinking about values and principles that is consistent with who we are. List out a carton of values you should live by. Don’t make it too many in your carton, just 5-7 is enough. Make them non-negotiables in everything that you do.
Make Today A Day To Grow
With that carton of values, live by it. Like muscles grow with resistance rather than with flow, you grow by what you resist also. With the values you live by, you are able to know what you ought to do and what you should resist. Make that resistance a good thing and do not feel bad about doing it. On the contrary of what we think, people will respect you by what you stand for. So make today a day to grow by what you stand for.
The Chaos Is What Happens On The Outside
Yes, you may indeed by facing some big challenges and turmoil in the midst of leadership and needing to lead yourself. Just like you have to do the point above, Make Today A Day To Grow by what you do and resist. Others have their part to play too. Know that the chaos is about things outside of you and often something beyond your control. If you have done the last point, you have done your part, even if one of your value is to love. Sometimes tough love is needed that you care enough for others to know the boundary of what is your problem and what is theirs. Discern right and you will know the most of the chaos happens on the outside. It doesn’t have to affect you inside.
Peace Is Possible Inside Of You
Knowing chaos happens on the outside that you are not responsible for, overcome it by being strong inside. Connect to what your heart desire and your heart will be strengthened. Your heart desire connection and love and acceptance. So go with doing things that your heart wants, like being grateful for what you have rather than what you don’t have, like taking a walk in the park, like meditating and praying, connecting with God and with friends.
If you have no friends (as many leaders sadly do), turn a stranger who has like minded interest into a new friend. When I knew that leading myself is possible with chaos, I started devoting myself to something I always love and have neglected, music! So today I listen to music more, study music deeper and begin to jam with some new found friends.
Peace is possible if you know what your heart needs and attend to it. I do it with all the ways I mentioned above but predominantly with prayers to the Divine who is the creator of my heart. He knows all things and in Him, I live, move and have my being.
I also blog at littleignatian.siterubix.com where I write spiritual exercises to help us step into the presence of God
Leading yourself in the midst of chaos is very practical and possible. Consider the 4 keys above and live passionately.
What do you think? Write to me, how you do it?